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How To Deal With An Asshole Boss

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Unfortunately, there are a lot of intolerable people in high authority. Sometimes that’s just the way it goes. If you are currently dealing with a boss who is making your job a nightmare there may be some tactics that you can use that will limit your time with this “asshole” boss, learn to get along with them, or even go over their heads and get them kicked out. Of course, it’s not always possible to get someone fired just because they’re a little rude sometimes, so here are a few ways to make your day-to-day life livable while surviving the tornado that is the asshole boss.

Get Rid Of The Notion That Your Boss Is Going To Change

That would be wonderful, wouldn’t it? Once you accept that your boss is going to behave like an asshole every day, you can begin working towards a practical relationship between you and her/ him. Since you can’t control the actions of other people, once you accept that their actions are not yours, you can begin to realize that their anger and frustrations are their problem. Not yours. You have your own problems to focus on, so do it, and try not to let them get under your skin.

Do Not Feed Into Their Frustrations

If your boss approaches you after a meeting and says something passive-aggressive, don’t respond in kind. For example, they are unhappy with how you handled a client and ask if you are going to fix the issue or just continue on with your workday, say “Yes, I’ll fix it.” That’s it. There’s not much your boss can say after that since you agreed to do as they wanted. You don’t have to keep engaging. Say yes, and walk away. If your boss calls you before/ after work to yell at you, simply reply that you can sit down with them and communicate with them when you’re at the office. Your time outside of work is your time, and no one should make you feel like it isn’t right for you to be enjoying it.

Go To HR

A boss that is constantly berating you and crosses the line needs to be reported to Human Resources. If you feel that you are being targeted, bullied, or if you feel that your boss is constantly overstepping their boundaries, Human Resources need to know. A person who can’t be professional at work is not someone that should be leading a team. If your coworkers feel the same, perhaps you can all band together and let the heads of Human Resources know how terrible all of you have been treated.

Get In Their Head

You can’t assume you know someone else’s story or struggles. If Human Resources decided that your boss hasn’t done anything bad enough that he or she should be terminated, you’re going to have to get more creative. Perhaps your boss is feeling a lot of pressure from his/ her bosses. When your boss is giving you an assignment, repeat the assignment back to them and let them know that you understood, but if what he is asking for is impossible, let him know that. For example, if your boss wants you to double your revenue this term and doesn’t give you a way to do that, let them know that it’s going to be difficult. Say, “I understand that you are looking to double revenue for this term, you must be feeling a lot of pressure from the top. I understand that, but without any new clients it is not going to be easy for my team and me to create the results that you are expecting.” He might tell you to suck it up, or he might rise to the occasion and go to his supervisors to let them know they’re asking for disappointment.

Last Resort: Quit

This person is truly terrible and is making your life a living hell. There is no reason for you to continue suffering at a job that you are unhappy at. If there is a possibility that you can leave this job and find another, then do that right away. You tried reasoning with this boss, reporting them, and getting inside their head and it all failed. Runaway as far and as fast as possible, if you value your ability to earn a living without being subjected to such negativity.

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